Some thoughts on the heart-womb connection, and the relationship between being emotionally available and sexually-fulfilled. 🌸💞
Ever since I began the process of womb awakening, the primal connection between the heart and womb has come to the forefront of my embodied experience. Now everything I feel in my heart I also feel in my womb. And everything my womb experiences (and has experienced) resonates deeply in my heart. The womb and heart are twin flames in essence — the womb has a heart-space, just as the heart has a womb-space — and a magical umbilical cord of light connects them. Men have this divine circuit also, only their womb is called the Dan Tien, or Hara.
In our current paradigm, the heart has been separated from the womb, and our creative power divided from love. When our love does not have roots, or our power is not connected to our heart, suffering is birthed.
I am a sex-positive person. I believe in our erotic innocence and believe that everyone should feel empowered to explore their sexuality without shame. But I also believe that education, self-study, and sacred space are the keys to making that a real possibility.
I have learned, for me personally, that engaging sexual encounters half-heartedly will also result in me only being able to physically open partially. Which creates a habit (and limited range of motion over time) of only opening so much on physical, emotional, and spiritual levels.
Engaging sexual activity when the heart is not fully included, and womb not fully receptive, can cause the heart and yoni to close and armor to protect itself — limiting our capacity to open in orgasm, relationship, and to the whole of life. Every lover or sexual encounter that does not honor the heart, or sanctity of our womb sovereignty, leaves an energetic residue or erotic wound behind — which can contribute to feelings of shame, unworthiness, and fear.
I believe that true sexual empowerment, safety, and satisfaction begins with A). Slowing way the fuck down and B). Consciously rewiring the sacred centers of the womb and heart. This is a crucial connection to make within ourselves and with any partner we choose to engage with.
In the age of #metoo, learning to include our hearts, as well as track our own nervous system, are the PRELIMINARY STEPS to being able to both confidently and clearly communicate — as well as accurately read — true consent.
I am not saying you should/need to be in love with someone in order to engage sexually in a healthy way. You don’t need to be in love in order to respect the shit out of someone’s humanity. However, I will say, if the partner(s) you are selecting are not making you feel more enlivened, empowered, or open as a human being, there’s a problem.
Practice: To connect to the heart-womb circuit within yourself, sit or lay down with one hand on your womb and one hand on your heart. Experience them pulse and breathe as one entity. If you’re lying down in constructive rest pose, you can accentuate this heart-womb relationship by adding a subtle spinal undulation to your breath experience. Experience the sacred movement between these two centers.