I've always been a low-maintenance girl when it comes to beauty. I've never understood people who have a 30-minute make-up routine each morning, people who curl their hair, or spend hundreds of dollars on expensive make-up and skincare products. I never had a passion for fashion or researching the latest trends and I only own about three pairs of shoes at any given time. And let's face it, over the past few years of essentially living in yoga clothes and stretchy pants, I'm at a complete loss when I have to show up to life in anything else.
So I guess I would describe my beauty and style sense as in the following words: minimalist, quick, natural and starting from the inside out. I've always been more concerned with inner ambience than the color palette of my clothes. Because I myself don't notice or consider the color palette of others. Granted, I'm not fashionably inclined. But more so, I find the kindness, charisma, and genuine nature of others more impactful in revealing their magnetism and glow.
Bottom line: What makes someone beautiful is the way they carry themselves and how they treat others.
So today's blog-post is about tapping into those inner resources for beauty. And the cool part is that it is already there. All the qualities that make a person beautiful are innately present. It's just a matter of incorporating practices to clear this inner ambience and enhance what's inside. And then it's matter of stepping out of any self-effacing or self-deprecating habits, and showing up, bright and clear, just as you are.
Here is my list of 7 Natural Beauty Tips to enhance your glow from the inside out:
1. ACCEPT YOURSELF.
Exhibiting friendliness towards others begins with befriending yourself. And this means befriending all of it. The full spectrum of your being. When you accept yourself, others will feel accepted by you. There is nothing more therapeutic than spending time with someone who has an easeful, loving and comfortable disposition toward themselves. Like Ellen Degeneres says:
Being yourself offers others the permission to be themselves. I mean, look at Ellen. She accepted herself in such a brave and public way. And who doesn't love and want to be around Ellen?
2. BE VULNERABLE.
So much of our beauty lies in our ability to share the things important to our heart. When we share our truth or stories of grief, suffering or fear, we reveal our precious humanity. We make deep connections and inspire others to share themselves.
We often think others will be inspired by us by only revealing what's good, positive and light. The truth: No one is inspired by someone who doesn't show up fully. No one is inspired by someone they can't relate to. And there is nothing inspiring about a perfect, sterilized, impenetrable life.
The most inspiring humans in the world are the ones brave enough to be truthful, real and raw. So show yourself and show up fully. But don't only be vulnerable with your grief. Be vulnerable with your joy.
Nothing is more attractive than a person who is totally lit up about life and willing to show it. Talk to others about your passions, goals or dreams. Whether it's your job, a skill, craft or subject of interest, bring this up in your conversations with others.
Are you really excited about a book you are reading? Or a person you just met? A social justice issue? Or a recent accomplishment you worked really hard for? Speak up and share your enthusiasm. Share your joy.
Often we are afraid to share our passions or accomplishments out of fear that they will make someone feel inferior or uncomfortable. Or we fear that they won't accept us when they see how weirdly geeked we are about certain things.
For instance, I was once dating a guy that was super non-yogi. I was afraid to share my passion and love for the yoga practice out of fear of being written off as some hippie new age freak as I often am in the conservatism of this town. Eventually, I let it slip and went off on a tangent on how yoga has changed my life. Right after that, he said he had never been more attracted to me. Who would've thought?
Not only should we never repress parts of ourselves so others will accept us, but it's often those unique light-filled idiosyncrasies that make people drawn to us. This famous quote by Marianne Williamson does an excellent job on summarizing a life of shining bright without fear:
Meditation is the best way to bring clarity and space to your inner being. The contents of the heart-mind has so much impact in how we carry and present ourselves, and ultimately, has the largest impact on how others see us.
With a regular meditation practice we can shift from projecting an agitated, irritable, hurried and anxious energy to a calm, serene, patient and kind energy. This beauty, or clarity of the heart, reflects outwardly as radiance and glow on the person's face. Tibetan Buddhists say that meditation will literally make your face shine.
5. STAY AT YOUR VIBRATION.
Living authentically is a lifelong journey. Every day we face opportunities to choose the path of another over what feels most integral and truthful to ourselves. There is always going to be that temptation to switch up your path because of someone else's opinion or expectation. Staying true requires intentionality and dedication.
There is nothing more beautiful than seeing a person be unapologetically themselves. The way to attract your tribe is to stay at the vibration that feels most authentic to you. If you lower your vibration to fit in with others, you will automatically attract people who don't align with your intentions for living or serve your highest good.
6. PRACTICE LOVINGKINDNESS.
Lovingkindness, or metta, is the practice of wishing oneself and others to be happy, content and at ease. Through awakening friendliness toward all beings and loving acceptance of ourselves, we can transform our suffering to awaken compassion and live in a way that is reflective of our true nature.
Having a loving and radically accepting disposition towards life feels beautiful. Feeling bitter, resentful, or cynical makes us feel heavy and ugly. Choosing the difficult practice of forgiveness and genuine desire for even our enemies to be safe and well is the ultimate practice of inner beauty.
And of course, lovingkindness always begins with yourself. You cannot extend love, kindness or forgiveness toward others without first extending this toward yourself. You can practice with the following metta phrases:
May I be safe from danger.
May I have mental happiness.
May I have physical happiness.
May I live with peace and ease of being.
The Buddha even listed out the benefits of practicing lovingkindness: You will sleep easy. You will wake easily. You will have pleasant dreams. Animals will love you. Spiritual guides will protect you. External dangers will not harm you. Your face will be radiant and your mind will be serene.
Sounds like a pretty beautiful existence to me.
Nothing brings inner beauty out faster than flashing a smile. And there is no easier way to make beautiful connections with others. When we smile, we are approachable, friendly and confident. We exude the inner contents of the mind and heart. There is not a person on this earth who is not beautiful when they smile. So practice being more generous with that gorgeous grin!
If you are feeling less than beautiful, put down the heavy cover-up and try any of these practices to enhance the natural radiance that's already you. Tell someone you care. Do a good deed for someone else. Flash a smile at a stranger. Be yourself without apology. Observe what happens. Notice more ease in your own skin and more people drawn your way.
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